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Hello, lovelies! Today I have a soul-stirring guest post from Leanna and Kevin over at<\/span> The League of Champions<\/a>.<\/strong> It’s all<\/span> about being who you are . . . without waiting<\/em> for some special thing first. Enjoy and show them some love when you’re done reading! \ud83d\ude42<\/span><\/p>\n

Do you ever feel like…<\/span><\/p>\n

You have to engineer an irresistible persona to get people to like you?<\/span>
\nYou can’t unleash the real you until you’re done baking?<\/span>
\nYou’re a work in progress that will never be complete?<\/span>
\nNo one hears your voice in a deafeningly loud world?<\/span><\/div>\n

People say, \u201cBe yourself.\u201d \u00a0But what is \u201cyourself?\u201d \u00a0Luckily, the solution can be found in one simple secret.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Many of us have this problem of finding ourselves. \u00a0You\u2019re not abnormal, or broken, or on the wrong track if you feel this way. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

We\u2019ve all be told, one time or another, that we \u201cshould\u201d be something that was different from what we wanted to be. \u00a0So then we start to think, \u201cWell, maybe I\u2019m wrong, maybe I should be something different\u2026” and we question ourselves so much, we forget what we really were in the first place. \u00a0Or maybe we were told, \u201cThat\u2019s just the way things are,” by someone who hadn\u2019t bothered to find out if things could be other ways, too. \u00a0So then we began to think we had to accept a reality that we didn\u2019t want. \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s because of all the moments you were told not to follow your gut, that your gut was wrong, that you now feel like the real you – who knows all the right answers – is eluding you.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

All these moments can be undone, however. \u00a0You can get in touch with your true self simply, right now, no waiting. \u00a0The biggest secret to finding yourself is\u2026 to stop looking.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

The real you is not someone who has to be stitched together from pieces of what you think you should be, or someone who\u2019s still being shaped and formed, or that ultimate personality you\u2018ve come up with in your head. \u00a0Of course we continue to grow and change, so think of that as an expansion of the true you. \u00a0But the true you is already here.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

To stop looking means to stop putting on an act. \u00a0Sometimes we act a certain way because we\u2019re around certain people. \u00a0Or, even when we\u2019re alone, our choices reflect what we think the outside world will accept. \u00a0\u00a0Doing this is like putting on a mask we think everyone else will like. \u00a0To take off the mask,\u00a0just stop editing yourself.<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0The true you is already here. \u00a0It has always been underneath the mask, because it\u2019s how you\u2019d naturally act if you weren\u2019t pretending.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you want to say, \u201cI like your sunglasses,\u201d to the good-lookin\u2019 person sitting next to you on the bus (but you stop yourself because they might think you\u2019re repulsive), the real you would just say it. \u00a0It\u2019s what you\u2019d inherently do, if you weren\u2019t afraid. \u00a0When we edit ourselves, it\u2019s out of fear; fear is what causes us to hide our real faces behind masks.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cStop looking\u201d also means start trusting your inner joy.<\/strong> \u00a0You don\u2019t need to search for that, it comes to you automatically to indicate the things you love. \u00a0The things you love are already known to you; the positive response they stimulate is unwavering and naturally there – so your passions and desires lead to the true you. \u00a0If given a few options, the choice that makes you feel a surge of excitement is the one that will be aligned with your true self. \u00a0You\u2019ll have confirmation that you\u2019ve made the right choice, too – when you\u2019re engaged in the outcome of that decision, you don\u2019t feel like you need to be doing anything else. \u00a0Your mind is clear and you aren\u2019t thinking about the past or future, only the present moment.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you want to run away from your accounting job cubicle and become the dancer you started training to be when you were three, the real you would start pique turning right out of the office. \u00a0It\u2019s what you would do if you gave yourself permission to follow your bliss. \u00a0We feel so awful sometimes, and it\u2019s just our body is trying to signal to us that we\u2019re acting in ways that aren\u2019t meant to be.<\/span><\/p>\n

So you can stop looking, because the true you is already here. \u00a0Your gut feelings, your fearless instincts, what makes you happy – all of these things are inherent. \u00a0You were born with them. \u00a0You just stopped trusting them and forgot they were there to guide you to yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cIt is our choices\u2026 that show who we really are, far more than our abilities.\u201d<\/span>
\n-Dumbledore in Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets, J.K. Rowling<\/span><\/p>\n

Choices define who we are, so let your choices reflect your true feelings. \u00a0Make the more joyful, fearless choice.<\/strong> \u00a0Your positive feelings will indicate which choice that is. \u00a0That will be the real you. \u00a0Ask yourself, \u201cAm I doing this because I\u2019m afraid? \u00a0Or am I acting in a way that will make me the most engaged, the most happy?\u201d \u00a0Try giving up fear, for just one day. \u00a0You can always go back to being safe and unfulfilled if you want to.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

You no longer have to think of yourself as a batch of cookies in the oven, still baking. \u00a0You can be the real, complete, whole you right now.<\/strong> \u00a0The very moment you start making the choices that reflect your inner joy and your passion, your real self has entered the world. \u00a0From the smallest of choices (opting to rock out to your favorite song, instead of sitting there like a lump, to make your commute more enjoyable), to the largest life changes (removing yourself from an energy-sucking workplace to pursue your dream), all your decisions are opportunities to be your real self. \u00a0Today, instead of choosing the person you think you should be, choose you. \u00a0Your bliss will guide you to where you are.<\/span><\/p>\n

So stop pretending to be something you\u2019re not, stop with the disclaimers and apologies, and stop hiding behind a false persona, because nobody likes a liar. \u00a0People will hear you if you are letting out your uniqueness. \u00a0Everyone wants to come alive, so those who haven\u2019t admire the ones who have.<\/span><\/p>\n

Leave a comment to inspire others with a choice that made you come alive today!<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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The League of Champions was founded by Leanna Dindal and Kevin Rae, with the mission of empowering people to achieve their own, personal definitions of success. \u00a0Developed with artists in mind, The League focuses on unlocking your creativity and finding the inner strength to make your life anything you want it to be. \u00a0Leanna and Kevin strive to live as Champions: excellent individuals with lives of independence, boundless creativity, and their own, unique self-expression. \u00a0Find out more at<\/span>\u00a0http:\/\/www.theleagueofchampions.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n