{"id":130,"date":"2012-04-29T14:30:00","date_gmt":"2012-04-29T14:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/otitijasmine.wordpress.com\/2012\/04\/29\/living-out-loud"},"modified":"2012-04-29T14:30:00","modified_gmt":"2012-04-29T14:30:00","slug":"living-out-loud","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.otitijasmine.com\/otitijasmine.org\/2012\/04\/29\/living-out-loud\/","title":{"rendered":"Living Out Loud"},"content":{"rendered":"<div style=\"text-align:center;\"><span style=\"font-size:medium;\"><span style=\"line-height:normal;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.otitijasmine.com\/otitijasmine.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/freedom-quotes-5.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-134\" title=\"Living Out Loud\" src=\"http:\/\/www.otitijasmine.com\/otitijasmine.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/freedom-quotes-5.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"490\" height=\"367\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.otitijasmine.com\/otitijasmine.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/freedom-quotes-5.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.otitijasmine.com\/otitijasmine.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/freedom-quotes-5-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.otitijasmine.com\/otitijasmine.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/05\/freedom-quotes-5-400x300.jpg 400w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 490px) 100vw, 490px\" \/><\/a><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n<div style=\"text-align:center;\"><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">Today&#8217;s post is all about connecting and going beyond innocuous small talk. Sometime in late February I read<\/span> <a href=\"http:\/\/www.yourlifeyourway.net\/about-2\/\" target=\"_blank\">Tia Sparkle Singh<\/a><span style=\"color:#000000;\">&#8216;s<\/span><span style=\"color:#000000;\"> post<\/span>\u00a0<span style=\"background-color:white;color:#ff0066;font-family:'Segoe UI', Candara, 'Bitstream Vera Sans', 'DejaVu Sans', 'Bitstream Vera Sans', 'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, 'Verdana Ref', sans-serif;font-size:26px;line-height:1.364em;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.yourlifeyourway.net\/2012\/01\/16\/11-questions-youre-not-asking-that-could-change-your-life\/\" target=\"_blank\">11 Questions you\u2019re NOT asking that could change your life<\/a>\u00a0<\/span><span style=\"color:#000000;\">and realised that we <em>do<\/em> live our lives asking and saying the same things over and over and OVER again. Kinda boring when you think about it, right?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">So today I&#8217;m taking a stand to change the way we perceive communication. I&#8217;m taking a chance and putting my truth on here because I don&#8217;t want to wake up one day and find that I lived my life too afraid to share what was <span style=\"text-decoration:underline;\">truly<\/span> important to me. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">Chances are you don&#8217;t either, yes? <span style=\"font-size:large;\">I mean, what&#8217;s the point of being here if we can&#8217;t be true to who we <em>really<\/em> are and what we honestly feel?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">These are my answers to the 11 questions. I hope you&#8217;re moved to share yours as well.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"><strong>1.) What is your dream job?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"> Earning a living combining my passions and interests, namely travel, writing, motivational work, and humanitarian philosophies. I guess that means I&#8217;ll either have to work for myself or find a <em>very<\/em> specific work position, yes? \ud83d\ude00<\/span><!--more--><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">At the end of the day, though, it&#8217;s less about the actual job for me and more about the <em>sense<\/em> of fulfilment. Any job that makes me feel most powerful and truly alive is the one for me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"><strong>2.) What fulfils you?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"> Connection. Interaction. Community. Rubbing minds with like-minded souls and touching hearts with those who live according to The Love Principle, which is really just about loving yourself with the depth you deserve, and loving others with the compassion and understanding <em>they<\/em> deserve.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">I&#8217;m fulfilled when I know I&#8217;ve made a positive change in my world. When I&#8217;m able to inspire deep thinking and new ways of life through my words, my actions, and my personality.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">I&#8217;m fulfilled when I&#8217;m able to share love and support and encouragement, which really are the things that matter most at the end of the day, and when I&#8217;m able to learn from the wise souls who share their wisdom with warmth and empathy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"><strong>3.) What&#8217;s your greatest fear?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"> That I&#8217;ll look back at my life one day and realise I could have had it all but I let it slip through my fingers.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">My greatest fear is fear itself; the fear that I will let timidity and uncertainty steal: my light and my brilliance, my great projects and the authentic expression of my truest self, and my path\/my calling.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"><strong>4.) What do you want more of in life?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"> Oh wow, so much. SO much. More joy. More love. More bliss and fulfilment (regular readers know I mention these two ALL the time). More freedom. More compassion.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">I want a greater range of expression and a wider horizon of experiences. More colour. More passion. More fire.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">Intrepid desires. Deep-rooted boldness and faith in my intuition. The courage to speak and live my truth <em>regardless of what anyone else thinks<\/em>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"><strong>5.) What is your greatest accomplishment?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"> Making it through university even though my health wasn&#8217;t as robust as it should have been. Oh, and opening my blog! \ud83d\ude00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"><strong>6.) What are you most ashamed of?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"> I&#8217;ve let my anger and sense of betrayal poison important friendships, and let the desire to please another override my natural instincts and silence my intuition.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">Thankfully, all that&#8217;s in the past and I&#8217;ve kept them out of my present so far. \ud83d\ude42<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"><strong>7.) What makes you sad?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"> Thoughtless, hurtful words. Intentional physical and emotional abuse. Manipulation. Oppression.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">People too afraid to ask for help because they think they&#8217;ll be perceived as weak. People suffering in silence because they&#8217;ve been conditioned to believe they don&#8217;t deserve any better. People too scared to love at all because they&#8217;re terrified of getting hurt.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"><strong>8.) What&#8217;s the hardest thing you&#8217;ve experienced?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"> I&#8217;ve lived through emotional cruelty and psychological abuse. I&#8217;ve been told negative things about myself that I absorbed as gospel truth until I found the courage to believe otherwise and shed the burdens I bore. I&#8217;m not yet whole, but I&#8217;m more complete than I used to be.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"><strong>9.) What is great about you?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"> Well! Where do I begin? \ud83d\ude00 I&#8217;m often laughing or smiling or both. It&#8217;s ridiculous, really. Some call me &#8220;Sunshine&#8221; or &#8220;Smiley&#8221;, which of course <span style=\"text-decoration:underline;\">always<\/span> makes me blush (did I mention I blush a lot?). I&#8217;m tickled by the most random things and I <strong>love to laugh<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">I&#8217;m a pretty fast reader. I took down <em>Gone With the Wind<\/em> in two days; that&#8217;s over a 1,000 pages in about 12 hours or so. Oh yeah. I&#8217;m that good. \ud83d\ude00 I average 100 pages an hour, I think; 60 if the print&#8217;s really small.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">My heart&#8217;s really big and I encourage <em>every<\/em> venture my family and friends dream up. Life is too short not to follow your dreams, right? That said, y&#8217;all can stop trying to get me to drink or visit strip clubs. I refuse to yield, LOL. You know yourselves. \ud83d\ude09 :p<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">I&#8217;m also a love warrior. I think we could all do with a lot less indifference + animosity and a LOT more love, which is exactly why I had to find an outlet for my love for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">Yes, you. Reading this right now. I&#8217;ve got love for you. Not the scary &#8220;Oh my God, she&#8217;s gonna <em>stalk<\/em> me&#8221; kind, but the wishing you well and hoping you&#8217;re OK kind. The wanting you to live life at your fullest kind. The big-hearted, can&#8217;t help it, rootin&#8217; for ya kind. \ud83d\ude42<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"><strong>10.) Who are you?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"> Soul visionary. Heart hugger. Huge love advocate. Nourishing and inspiring your soul. Get lifted! \ud83d\ude09<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">I am a daughter, sister, aunt, and friend. The cheerleader you want in your corner. The voice of encouragement urging you on when you just wanna chuck it all in. The safe space where you can just <strong><span style=\"text-decoration:underline;\">be<\/span><\/strong> yourself without fear or worry of \u00a0negative repercussions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">I&#8217;m a lover of all things beautiful and uplifting. I <em>adore<\/em> positive people and am more likely to choose reading a good story over, oh I dunno, watching television? Speaking of which, I barely watch the tube anymore. But that&#8217;s a story for another day.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">Expressing myself through my words is vital to me. Reading and music are close seconds. I have faith that I shall learn an instrument or two before I shuffle off this mortal coil, LOL.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">I&#8217;m all about connection and meaningful interaction. I believe you might as well be your real self because the truth always comes out no matter how hard you try to hide it, so why bother in the first place? <span style=\"font-size:large;\">Those who&#8217;ll love you for who you are will, and those who won&#8217;t, won&#8217;t. It really is that simple.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">Besides, it&#8217;s more about having the freedom to live authentically and less about having a fan club &#8217;cause you&#8217;re popular. Nothing wrong with having a fan club, by the way. I&#8217;m always looking for new members. Takers, anyone? \ud83d\ude00<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">I adore travelling. Totally dig it. So far I have lived in 3 different countries and am gunning for a fourth pretty soon.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">My faith keeps me going through the dark times. Reaching out to others re-ignites my spark when I&#8217;m too down to do it on my own. Admitting my worries out loud helps me see they&#8217;re <em>not<\/em> that serious and life is a journey at my own \u00a0pace, not a race.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"><strong>11.) What inspires you?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\"> People living out loud. From their heart. From their gut. From their core.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">Brilliant souls dedicated to enlightenment, wisdom, and positivity.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">Women bold enough to say what they want and go for it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">Men bold enough to admit the strength and depth of their emotions.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">Those who are strong enough to believe in their radiant visions and bring them into reality.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">Those who are brave enough to love over, and over, and over again. Deeply, unreservedly, and unabashedly. Every time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color:#000000;\">And you? Will you answer these questions and share your answers? Better yet, will you ask them of another? I hope your answer is yes.<\/span><\/p>\n<div><span style=\"color:#000000;\">Thank you for reading. It&#8217;s so great having you here. Holler on<\/span> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/radiantsoulspace\" target=\"_blank\">Facebook<\/a>\u00a0<span style=\"color:#000000;\">and<\/span>\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/#!\/findotitihere\" target=\"_blank\">Twitter<\/a>,\u00a0<span style=\"color:#000000;\">and please feel free to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below. 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